Understanding men is never easy. But if your date has the cojones to come out and ask for an actual date, then congratulations, you're on your way. Now comes the fun part, because first-date anticipation is a veritable rollercoaster ride of hope and doom.
Is he The One? Is he as cute in person as he is online? Will I sweat too much to wear the white top? Will he be the one who finally gets my fear of aquariums? There's a good chance that each party is equally anxious, so be extra-aware of treating your date with delicacy and consideration.
As you probably know, understanding men is not easy, so how is one to decipher an invitation to "just hang out"? Is it a request for a romantic date, or will it entail sitting on his tattered couch, drinking Pabst, filling in for his vacationing therapist, and watching his friend's skateboarding videos?
If someone wants to take you on a date, his intentions should be clear. But what do you do if you're interested in the person yet have no idea what you're being asked?
Invitations
• Sit up and lean forward to indicate with your body language that you're interested in entertaining this offer, however ambiguous it may be.
• Restate what the person has just said, "Would I like to hang out on Saturday night?"
• Use an "I" message to indicate your confusion: "I'm having trouble understanding exactly what you're asking," rather than the more accusatory "What? You don't have the guts to ask me out on an actual date?"
• If he doesn't immediately clarify the offer, try to suss him out with an indirect line of questioning: "What will we be doing while we're 'hanging out'?"
• If the answer is, "I don't know," reply that you're busy, but if he wants to ask you out on an actual date, your schedule might just open up.
Jodie Brittain is the CEO of Australian Online Dating Service Slinky - the Aussie-only Dating site for men and women looking for great friends and genuine relationships. Join Slinky Online Dating for Free!
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